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Phyllis T. McVettie, age 84 of Warren, died Friday, September 22, 2017 at St. John Macomb-Oakland Hospital, Macomb Center in Warren. She was born September 16, 1933 in Detroit, daughter of the late William and the late Catherine (nee: Marmurowicz) Domanski.

Born and raised in Detroit, Phyllis was a proud graduate of the city's famed St. Stanislaus High School. It was just a couple years following high school that Phyllis' life would take a wonderful turn, and the story is an item for the realm of romance. It was on one fateful night after she and a friend had finished roller skating at Arena Gardens that they decided to stop and get a bite to eat. As they were enjoying each other's company and a little nosh, her friend espied a dashing young gentleman across the room…and the goading began. After all the back & forth comments and the nervousness abounding, it was Cupid's arrow that stirred the moment that brought the two together and sparked a relationship that eventually blossomed and led them both to the altar. She met James in March of 1953, and they were married that same year on November 28, 1953. The newlyweds made their first home in Detroit where they spent the first 6 years of marriage until relocating to the new & burgeoning bedroom community of Warren. It is there that they built upon the comforts of home, Raised 4 beautiful children, and grew deeper in love with each passing day.

Phyllis devoted her life to being a Homemaker and Mom, a responsibility some would say is, perhaps, the greatest task of all,…but one that Phyllis poured the beat parts of her love and care into, and considered an incredible blessing. Tending to the family, keeping the house in order, and cooking the meals was all part of her daily routine and kept her quite busy. Yet amidst it all, she did manage to achieve some balance and enjoy some pastimes for a little fun and entertainment. Aside from roller skating, she also enjoyed a couple of other sporting pleasures, namely bowling and golf. Whether it was those rousing times on the lanes in search of that 300 game, or a sunny & beautiful day on the links hoping for that elusive "Hole-in-One,"…Phyllis knew how to eke out a bit of fun and she often dragged others along for the ride.

Though it could be considered a task, another of Phyllis' favorite pastimes was spent putting her crafting skills to work while crocheting beautiful afghans. Her hands and talents produced many wonderful pieces over the years, and helped her to remain limber for the many other gifts she brought to the table of life. And one of these gifts was definitely found in her cooking skills. Ask anyone and they'll tell you that Phyllis was a fantastic cook who worked some incredible magic in the kitchen. Give her a stove and an oven,…then just step back and watch the Master at work. Being of Polish descent, it was obvious that she learned from her mother and picked up many of the skills and secrets that went into her magical creations. Mealtimes at Phyllis' table were something to behold and brought smiles to countless faces over the years. If you left her table hungry, you simply weren't trying.

For each of us, our stories are unique and telling at times,…as was the case with Phyllis. In reminiscing, the story just had to be shared of how she didn't learn to drive until she was 29 years old. It was something she just didn't see the need for doing, then a light went on and shined upon the truth of its importance,…and it wasn't long afterwards that she was a brand new member of the driving club. Now,…the story would not be replete without mentioning the little "agreement" she had with James. If she got her license, James had promised to buy her a car. So imagine the elation Phyllis felt the day she saw that shiny, new Red Pontiac Tempest sitting in the driveway? And not just any Pontiac Tempest,...this one came with a gorgeous white convertible top. Though it was a joy to drive around and show off, Phyllis didn't really do that much driving. Primarily it was to the grocery store and on little errands,…and, of course, to her standing Friday appointments at the Hair Salon. She didn't skip a beat there. There could be a hurricane swirling overhead,…but Phyllis was headed to that salon!

But of all the aspects she will be remembered for, Phyllis' gifts as a caregiver will surely reign supreme. She had the heart of a servant and the care of a saint that reached out to anyone in need. She thrived on giving from all she had to offer and did so with an unselfish and compassionate heart. And like any caring Mom out there, it was important that everyone was fed.

A loving wife, mother and grandmother, Phyllis was truly a proud lady. Proud of her Polish heritage, proud of her family (especially her precious and cherished grandchildren in whom she adored), and a proud member of her community. She touched a multitude of hearts and souls along the way and leaves behind countless lessons of how to love and reach out to others. She will be missed immensely, but lovingly remembered with each reflection shared by all who were blessed to know her.

Phyllis was the beloved wife of James Robert. Dearest mother of Kathy (Tim) O'Leary, Keith (Linda) McVettie, Jackie (Chris) Hilden, and the late Carol McVettie. Loving grandmother of Jim O'Leary, Jessica (Paul) Spearman, Katelyn (Kyle) Hartman, Nick Hilden, Devon McVettie, Alexandria and Isabella Hilden. She was preceded in death by 3 brothers.

Visitation for Phyllis will be held Monday, September 25th from 3-9 pm at the D.S. Temrowski & Sons Funeral Home, 30009 Hoover Road at Common (12 1/2 Mile Rd) in Warren. Her Funeral Service will be conducted on Tuesday, 10:00 am at the